When I was working in a detox, I spent a lot of time talking about change. Namely, a person’s capacity for it. It was a common theme, and understandably so. Everyone in that building was (at least on paper) there to try to change their life in a radical way.

Admitting you want to change your life is easy. Admitting that in order to change your life you have to change yourself is…. less easy.

I saw so much doubt Continue reading

The Secret World of Katie Mack

There are many reasons why someone in or around the adult/sex community would choose to work under a pseudonym. It’s pretty common practice. Without doing a bit of research, I think it’s more rare to find someone using the name on their birth certificate.

When I decided not to use the name that had been mine for my entire life, it wasn’t necessarily from a place of fear, but that was definitely part of it. Like many others, I had Continue reading

You Keep Using That Word: Sex-Positive Edition

Sex-positivity, while a concept that has come into my life fairly recently, is also one that’s become pretty close to my heart pretty quickly. Quite frankly, it’s fucking important. It’s one of those things that I haven’t really heard anyone be able to articulate a strong case against. However, I have heard it thrown around wayyyyy too casually and with too broad a meaning for my liking.

As a term, “sex-positive” seems to be going the way Continue reading

Review: WeVibe Touch

Oh man, WeVibe. My love runs deep (teehee, deep). I was super stoked to review the Touch, but to be honest I was a little skeptical as to how much I was going to love it. I already had the Tango (its fraternal if not identical twin), and that thing had (and still has) my vulva heart in a serious way. Even if I knew the Touch was going to be awesome, I thought Continue reading

Why This Grinch Hates Christmas

I catch a lot of shit for not liking Christmas. To be fair, I don’t like holidays at all, but Christmas is the one everyone gets upset about.

People usually just tell me I’m crazy for not liking Thanksgiving (“But what about all the food??”). And as a wannabe buddhist atheist in an all-Catholic family, I can usually make people understand my Continue reading

“Give Me Rampant Intellectualism As A Coping Mechanism”

Aw, Chuck Palahniuk (title credit). You’re just the right amount of fucked up.

I’ve been having a fuck of a time writing lately. It’s not that I don’t have anything to say, either. I’ve jotted down so many notes, thoughts, things I thought/think would make a good post. I’ve started a whole bunch of those posts, only to get stuck sentences in. For the first time in a while I know exactly what I want to say but can’t Continue reading

Review: VixSkin Mustang

I was never a big dildo person (or a little dildo person, for that matter). This is pretty well documented, as far as this blog goes. Although, to be fair (because I’m super fair), it wasn’t dildos specifically so much as insertables at all. I didn’t know what to do with them, I didn’t want them, just wasn’t my thing.

See me using past tense there? See that? That’s foreshadowing. Continue reading